posted by Dani on Dec 29
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My daughter is gonna be 7. We are expecting our second child and from early scans the doctor believs it a boy. (i’m 17 weeks) My daughter knows that boys have a penis and give have a vagina. She has no clue what it is or what it look like. But she is now telling everyone the new baby has a penis because its such a novelty to her.
My daughter is gonna be 7. We are expecting our second child and from early scans the doctor believs it a boy. (i’m 17 weeks) My daughter knows that boys have a penis and give have a vagina. She has no clue what it is or what it look like. But she is now telling everyone the new baby has a penis because its such a novelty to her.
What is the best way to prepare her for her brother arrival?
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January 1st, 2009 at 10:21 am
Well it’s all natural my daughter was curious what her little brother’s pee-pee parts would look like (lol=]) so I let her watch me change his diaper. I think that’s a good system.
January 4th, 2009 at 10:16 am
you could always go into the “ewww thats grooossss!!!” way.
January 5th, 2009 at 5:49 pm
Say that a penis is a bad thing to say, and that it is ur private part, and explain that u should not talk about such things in public. She’ll get the point when shes,
January 6th, 2009 at 8:15 am
She will find out soon enough, once she starts helping change diapers, etc. I don’t think there’s any need to explain it further beforehand, unless she asks.
January 6th, 2009 at 10:40 am
Awwww!!! How adorable! You could just explain to her that boys are different than girls, and have different parts. They used to have those anatomically correct baby dolls. (I used to have one.) You could get her a boy baby doll, to care for, and that way she’d be aware of all the ‘workings’ when she ‘changes’ it’s diaper.
January 8th, 2009 at 5:58 pm
I don’t really think that anyone needs to be “prepared” for exactly what a penis looks like; obviously she’ll see for herself when the baby comes and I doubt it’s going to traumatize her. But there are certainly plenty of books for kids that talk about such things, from potty training books right on up. Check the nonfiction section at your local library.
January 12th, 2009 at 12:39 am
I think the best thing to tell her is , just ”GOD gave it to us” , tell her every boy in the world has a pines and girls have vigina .now i’m 18 when i was a child my mum use to tell me , because if she tells you a little from the adult things and kids want to know a lot thing so to close that chapter tell her that’s allo GOD’s thing .
I HOPE THIS HELP TO YOUR DAUGHTER
and say WELCOME TO THIS EARTH FOR ME TO
YOU new boy
January 13th, 2009 at 2:12 am
well i think shes old enough to not be saying that to other people tell her thats not nice and correct her..i dont really see the big deal she’ll see it when your changing him ask a question or two and understand that hes a boy and shes a girl..
January 14th, 2009 at 9:40 pm
lol…ive got 2 girls and a boy…5 , 3, and 17 months in that same order. that was the same issue that i had, they definately notice that hes different, but my husband (whateverrrrrrrrrrrrr) is all against me just telling them flat out, thats called a penis. like someone else said, theyll go around repeating it. so i told them “its what makes him a boy” and left it at that.. my girls call theirs “pee parts” so they refer to them all as the same thing, including my son’s, cuz its all the same to them at this point just his looks different lol sorry if thats not much help. your daughter’s a bit older than mine, im sure that just explaining that its a penis and its what makes boys diff from girls is good enough. shes old enough to know better than to run around saying it.. and theres nothing wrong with her knowing the correct names of anatomy
January 15th, 2009 at 3:19 am
Have you ever thought of just showing her? I know it would “gross” many of you out, but parents are to teach and guide their children.
Way too often children are taught by their parents their bodies are bad and should be covered at all times….This is so wrong!
I have been a nudist for many years and the most screwed up kids you see are not from nudist resorts but from parents that refuse to accept the fact we are sexual beings and God created us that way! He also created us nude and had intended for us to remain so if you care to read the Bible about it in Genesis when God asked of Adam and Eve, “Who told you that you are naked?” God has no problem with nakedness so why should we?
That is your simplest answer to what a penis is to a little girl.
January 16th, 2009 at 2:23 pm
I can’t even remember where I read this, but when a mother was changing her baby boy’s diaper, the 4-year-old daughter wanted to know why he had a penis and was so different from her. The mother explained that boys have a penis, but that girls had a special place called a uterus and only she could have babies.
The little girl looked sad, and said “But he’s so fancy and I’m so plain.”
I just thought that was so cute. Just play things low-key — yes the new baby has a penis, so what? As far as her telling everyone the new baby will have a penis, explain to her that those are private parts and she should not discuss them in public.
Good luck with your new baby.
January 17th, 2009 at 12:11 pm
boys have them, girls don’t
January 17th, 2009 at 8:59 pm
Simply show her. Your choice how. This is birds and bees stuff. You can go with the old classic books parents use. But it left me wondering a lot of things. Thank god I found my parents porn or at least it was dads. Then I figured out the basics. The earlier you tell and show children how sex works the less curious they are to want to try sex when they get older.
January 20th, 2009 at 9:45 am
Well, she is old enough to know the difference between boys and girls. The penis is only one part of being a boy, there are testicles and balls. Being male or female is great, but sometimes it is only part of the answer. Show your daughter how to pee standing, the weakness of having testicles. And then she can appreciate being female, having periods, being able to give birth. Not taking anything away from her brother, but you must teach her that being female, is special, and possibly superior but I will not get into that.